| Perspective is really a problem for us humans. We all | | | | something "shouldn't" have happened, or think that our |
| live in our own realities, and when our realities come in | | | | ideas our best. Our strength as people lies in our |
| contact with each other, they can do any number of | | | | cooperation, however. Two people that think they |
| crazy dances together. It is not uprising then that | | | | are 100% right = a problem, though. You must be the |
| when conflicting perspectives come in contact with | | | | strong one and concede first, that way the other |
| each other, they can create an energy explosion. | | | | person does not have to feel so defensive and they |
| This can manifest in argument, fighting (verbal or | | | | will possibly begins seeing your good points and seeing |
| physical), and its ultimate end is war. | | | | that you are a reasonable person. |
| The crazy thing about perspective is that it can | | | | 4. Realize that the person's perspective may not be |
| always change at any given time, but with most | | | | one they chose - Some people have not been lucky in |
| people, it is only the natural change of aging that | | | | life and may have experienced certain events that |
| changes how people see the world, or only after a | | | | stay with them forever unless they willingly try to fix |
| catastrophic event makes them reevaluate their life. | | | | them. One of the main purposes of Futhark |
| Without one of the two previous events | | | | Lifehack is to help people realize that, maybe with time, |
| from occurring, many people will fight the problem | | | | you can change your life 180 degrees if you choose. |
| with something that doesn't work, and keep fighting it | | | | Some people, unfortunately, will never receive that |
| the same way until the whole situation gets worse and | | | | message, or realize that it is true. They are stuck, |
| worse. | | | | therefore, in their perspective. These situations are |
| 1. Look at what the person is extremely passionate | | | | often difficult to deal with, however, I do not suggest |
| about - Once you discover someone's real passions, a | | | | empathy. Empathy will only fuel the fire and you will |
| whole new world of communication opens between | | | | make it seem to them like they are really right for |
| you and them, but it is largely unconscious on their part. | | | | feeling the way they do, because, hey, other people |
| This does not mean that you intrude on their lives | | | | seem to think they are right. Straight out ignoring and |
| and ask them what they are passionate about after | | | | redirecting the conversation is probably the best way |
| just meeting them. Do they belong to | | | | to deal with it. |
| any extracurricular groups? Are they really | | | | 5. Live as they do and see how you would feel, then |
| involved in their work? Are they deeply religious or | | | | figure a way out of it for them - Coming from the |
| family people? Once you know someone's | | | | outside, it is easier to see people then to see yourself. |
| passions, you can then steer the conversation to | | | | Sometimes the urge to give suggestions is almost |
| make them more involved, and they will be thankful | | | | overpowering, but we hold our tongues, because |
| that you paid attention. It really is an amazing way to | | | | usually we want others to ask questions first about |
| open communication, or even just to make friends. | | | | these type of things. Are they having a hard time |
| 2. Look to see what kind of friends the person has - | | | | with relationships? Or serious money issues? It is |
| People are usually surrounded by people like | | | | not merely enough to imagine ourselves into these |
| themselves. People want to feel validated in how | | | | situations, sometimes we really have to live them to |
| they feel, so they find others like them an make friends | | | | feel their effects. Using an outsider's perspective, we |
| with them. If you are unsure about someone, see | | | | can usually make more logical and less emotional |
| what type of people they socialize with. Are they | | | | decisions of good ways to proceed past problems. |
| athletic, book-worms, substance abusers, all work-no | | | | Once the avenues of communication between people |
| play types, etc? | | | | are opened and the guards are let down, you can |
| 3. Try to understand that they feel they are 100% | | | | really begin to make progress in your relationships, be it |
| right - We all feel this way to a certain extent. We | | | | at home, at work, at church, wherever. |
| use excuses at times that life is not fair, or say | | | | |