| | | | | Does he bad-mouth others? Does he uses foul |
| Is He A Gentleman | | | | language without any apology? Are his words cold |
| WANT to know if your man is a real gentleman or just | | | | and icy or are they warm and gentle? It is "from the |
| half of one? If you're dating a man and he's not a real | | | | abundance of the heart that the mouth speaks". |
| gentleman, over time you should be able to tell, | | | | How he treats people: How a man treats people in |
| because no matter how much he tries to pretend, | | | | general will definitely point to how he will treat you. |
| there will be some telltale signs that will uncover his | | | | Why should a woman believe that a man who is |
| true colours. Yes, there will be some signs, like the | | | | disrespectful and rude to others will be respectful to |
| ones listed below. | | | | her? If a man shows you from all angles that he is not |
| How he treats his mother: The way a man treats | | | | refined, and if he is being less than a gentleman to |
| other women, his sisters and especially his mother will | | | | others, then please, like the Jamaican adage says, you |
| speak volumes about the kind of person that he really | | | | should "take sleep and mark death". |
| is. If he treats his mother with disdain, chances are he | | | | How he grooms himself: A man's general grooming |
| doesn't know any better. If he does not have the | | | | style says a lot about who he is. Look at how he |
| know-how or the finesses to be gentle with a lady, he | | | | keeps himself; it doesn't take lots of money to be neat, |
| will not be able to pretend for long. Look at it this way, | | | | clean, and well groomed. A gentleman will take pride in |
| gentleness is not something that you can copy | | | | his grooming. |
| overnight; you either have it or you don't. | | | | How courteous he is: Does he say, "Please", "I am |
| How he drives/behaves in traffic: Have you ever | | | | sorry", and "Thank you"? These are words and |
| watched how some drivers behave on the road? | | | | phrases that we are taught from kindergarten, yet it is |
| Some are so uncouth that it makes you sick. If a man | | | | amazing how many people don't ever use them. A |
| gets really upset and nasty on the road, even for | | | | gentleman should have these as a part of his |
| minor offences and if he is always rude and | | | | vocabulary, and he should use them appropriately |
| boisterous to other motorists, how can you overlook | | | | when necessary. |
| this? The character that one displays when he/she is | | | | How others view him: This may sound like a simple |
| angry is a good indicator of the type of person you | | | | matter, however, it is not. If he is a gentleman, you are |
| are with. | | | | not the only person who should know. Others should |
| How he solves conflicts: A gentleman should be able | | | | be able to tell as well. If he is crude and mean-spirited, |
| to solve conflicts without exhibiting any rude or | | | | he may be able to hide it from you for a while, but |
| disrespectful behaviour. He should be able to listen, | | | | trust me, those looking on from the outside can help |
| communicate and understand, even when dealing with | | | | you to know. |
| disagreeable subjects. If he is going to rant and rave, | | | | A word of advice: Don't pull out your hair trying to find |
| or get mad and ugly just because he is annoyed, | | | | out if he's a gentleman, just open your eyes and look, |
| upset or working through a conflict, you tell me, is he a | | | | the signs are there. |
| gentleman? | | | | Jacqueline Champier is a counselling psychologist |
| How he speaks: Listen carefully when he is speaking. | | | | from Mandeville. |